Ushingiye ku bushakashatsi bwakozwe n’Ikigo cya Vitae Foundation, bigaragara ko abagabo banyura mu bibazo bisa n’ibyo abagore bahura na byo: ibitekerezo ku bushobozi bwabo, ku bijyanye n’ubukungu, ku hazaza habo, ndetse no ku nshingano z’ubuzima bushya bashobora guhura na bwo.

Victoria Clark avuga ko umugabo atari indorerezi gusa, ahubwo ko na we ahura n’igitutu cy’icyemezo, nubwo atajya agaragaza amarangamutima ye nk’uko bikunze kugaragara ku bagore.

“Ntabwo niteguye” ntibivuze kudashaka inshingano

Mu bushakashatsi buvugwa, akenshi amagambo “siniteguye” asobanurwa nk’ubwoba kurusha kubura ubushake. Abagabo benshi baba bafite impungenge z’ubushobozi bw’amafaranga, imyumvire y’imyaka, cyangwa gutinya kutabasha kuba umubyeyi mwiza.

Ibi bigaragaza ko ikibazo atari ukwanga inshingano, ahubwo ko ari ukutamenya neza uko bazabyitwaramo.

Iyo inda itunguranye, umugabo akenshi ahita yumva inshingano zo gutunga umuryango, gutegura ubuzima bushya, no gushaka ibisubizo byihuse ari ibintu bigoye. Ibi bishobora kumusunikira kwiyubaka cyangwa kumutera kwiheba, bitewe n’uko yabifashe.

Inkuru ivuga ko uruhare rw’umugabo rushobora kuba ishingiro ry’icyemezo cy’ubuzima bushya, nubwo ataba ari we ucyemeza bwa nyuma.

Kuba umubyeyi bishobora guhindura ubuzima bw’umugabo

Abagabo benshi bavuga ko kuba ba se bibaha intego nshya mu buzima. Bikabatera kwiyubaka, gushaka akazi keza, no kugira uruhare mu muryango no mu muryango mugari.

Nk’uko ubushakashatsi bubigaragaza: barushaho kugira inshingano, bagira intego nshya, bongera ubushobozi bwo kwiyubaka, bakagira uruhare mu kurera abana.